What parents need to know about VRChat — a virtual reality social platform with significant risks from stranger contact, harassment, and immersive environments.
VRChat is a free virtual-reality social platform where users explore user-made worlds and chat as customised avatars, with largely unmoderated voice chat.
Official age
13+
We recommend
18+
Developer
VRChat Inc.
Risks
4
VRChat is a free-to-use social virtual reality platform where users — represented by custom avatars — can interact in virtual worlds, attend events, and socialise with strangers from around the world. While it can be accessed in standard desktop mode, it is primarily designed for virtual reality headsets. VRChat is largely unmoderated, and the immersive nature of VR means that harassment, inappropriate content, and grooming in this environment can feel significantly more distressing and physically immediate than on a flat-screen platform.
Teenagers are typically drawn to VRChat through gaming communities, YouTube, or friends. They explore user-created worlds, socialise with avatars, attend virtual events and clubs, and in some cases form long-term online friendships within the platform. The creative tools for building worlds and custom avatars are also a draw for technically minded young people.
Safety Settings
Location: VRChat in-game → Main Menu → Safety
Set to: New User or Visitor shield — restrict voice, avatars, and interaction from unknowns
VRChat's Safety system applies default restrictions to users below a trust level. Keeping safety settings at a restrictive level significantly reduces exposure to unknown users' avatars and voices.
Trust Level Awareness
Location: Social menu → User profiles
Set to: Only interact with Trusted or Known users
VRChat assigns trust levels to users based on account age and behaviour. Encouraging your child to only interact with higher-trust users reduces exposure to fresh accounts, which are more commonly associated with harmful behaviour.
Discuss VRChat with your child if they have a VR headset — understand whether they are using it and what worlds they are spending time in
Time: 20 minutes
Explain that the immersive nature of VR makes harassment feel more intense and that it is never acceptable — and that they can and should block anyone who makes them uncomfortable
Time: 15 minutes
For under-16s, consider whether VRChat is appropriate at all given the lack of effective moderation and high prevalence of adult users and content
Time: Ongoing
In immediate danger: call 999. For non-emergency police matters, call 101.
Concerned about a child but it's not an emergency? NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000. Childline for young people 0800 1111.
Myth: VRChat has a hard age gate, so under-13s simply can't get onto the platform.
Fact: VRChat asks for a birth date at sign-up but does not verify it, so a child of any age can create an account by entering a false one. The platform's own minimum of 13 — with parental permission required for 13-17 — relies entirely on honesty at registration, not on any real check.
Myth: If my teenager only visits invite-only worlds with friends, VRChat is basically safe.
Fact: Private instances with people your teenager actually knows are lower-risk than public worlds, but the public worlds are the real problem — a BBC investigation documented grooming and sexualised content in worlds a child could freely wander into — and a 'friend' made only on VRChat is still someone your child has typically met online, not in real life.
Myth: It's just an avatar, so unpleasant contact in VRChat isn't as serious as something that happens in person.
Fact: VRChat's voice-chat and full-body avatar immersion is embodied enough that being followed, cornered, or simulated-touched by another avatar can trigger real distress — VR research describes a 'phantom touch' sensation from this kind of contact. Treat a harassment or grooming disclosure from VRChat with the same seriousness as an in-person one.
VRChat's minimum age is 13, and nothing about this platform can be made safe for primary-school-age children — its worlds are user-created and effectively unmoderated, with sexual content and grooming attempts well documented. This is a clear no, whatever a friend's older sibling's account might suggest.
Below 13 there is no version of VRChat suitable for this age, and even at 13 VRChat's own terms require parental permission. If a child this age is drawn to it because gaming friends use it, redirect to lower-risk VR titles and explain the specific reasons — stranger contact, adult worlds, unmoderated voice chat — rather than a blanket ban with no explanation.
VRChat remains not recommended at this age: its public worlds and voice chat put teenagers into unmoderated contact with adult strangers, and documented cases include grooming that began exactly this way. If a teenager is already using it, the minimum is private instances with real-life friends only, VRChat's Safety settings set to restrict new/untrusted users, and an agreement to tell you immediately if anyone follows, films, or propositions them.
VRChat's own recommended age for full use is 18, so the same caution still applies at 17: stick to trusted instances, keep Safety settings restrictive toward unknown users, and remember that a 'friendship' formed only inside VRChat carries the same stranger risk as one formed on any other unmoderated platform.
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